Reclaiming the Word “Selfish”

While much of society celebrates selflessness and constantly working, the idea of a personal vacation may come with a swirl of guilt. Here’s a wild concept: what if selfishness—when it involves truly putting your happiness, health, and peace first—could actually be beneficial? This summer, let’s reclaim the term “selfish” by focusing on trips designed entirely for you. Whether you are burnt out, seeking clarity, or simply wanting undisturbed time alone, solo trips are unmatched in value both for yourself and those around you.

The Guilt Trap: Why We Feel Bad About Putting Ourselves First

Why is it so hard to prioritize taking a break when social media tells us we should always be available, selfless and productive? When we do try to take breaks alone, guilt starts to seep in.

You might wonder:
Is spending money on myself justified?
Will my family or my partner think I’m avoiding them?
Is it wrong to want time away just for me?
No, it is not wrong. Easing up on life’s demands is as essential as recharging your phone. Taking a pause—mental or physical—is revitalizing and doesn’t require permission.

Solo Travel = Self-Discovery Not Selfishly

A vacation taken solely for yourself serves one enormous benefit unmatched by other trips – pure alignment with oneself. Every decision—from when to wake up to where to dine—is yours alone, creating a powerful sense of autonomy. That autonomy transforms internally while feeling refreshing externally at the same time.

Here’s how solo travel helps you reconnect:

The pace that suits you best: No more anxiety about rushing through an itinerary bound by tightly coiling shackles like timings. Fill your schedule with nothing or everything!

Your preferences: From spa mornings followed by lazy beach afternoons to stargazing evenings, each activity can be chosen freely without deviations.

Your goal? Enjoying some solitude gives you time to reflect, create, and experience delight that is normally lost in daily chores. After your trip, you can truly show up for people with patience, presence, and authenticity.

Science behind it

Studies show that alone time can improve one’s mental health, creativity as well as emotional resilience.

An analysis in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology stated that spending time alone intentionally leads to:

• ● Better emotional control
• ● Enhanced problem-solving ability
• ● Improved overall wellbeing

Additionally, taking a vacation focused on wellness lowers cortisol levels while improving heart health. It also alleviates symptoms of anxiety or depression.

So no, it’s not selfish. It’s self-care.

Your Selfish Summer Starts Here: Why StolenTime is The Ideal Destination
For saints like us who are ready to explore guilt-free travel that focuses on ourselves without feeling bad about it, StolenTime awaits in Saint Lucia.

This wellness retreat is one of the premier St. Lucia adults only resorts, designed to help guests pause from their daily routines and recharge—through nature, solitude, or even by reconnecting with others, if they wish. But the beauty of StolenTime lies in its optionality—there’s zero pressure for socialising or adhering to a schedule. Social calendars can be ignored entirely, allowing for custom-designed, need-based stays tailored to your vibe.

Why StolenTime is Your Ideal Destination

Indulge at StolenTime, one of the top-rated all inclusive resorts in St. Lucia for adults, where every day invites discovery and true relaxation.

• ● Start your morning with tranquil beach walks that ground the mind and renew the spirit.
• ● Rediscover playful passions through creative workshops and hands-on cooking classes.
• ● Embrace solo dining with panoramic ocean views—no judgment, just joy in your own company.
• ● Feeling social? Join a yoga class or group excursion, or mix and mingle in a laid-back mixology session. It’s all about what you need—no rigid itinerary, no pressure.

At StolenTime, self-focused travel isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. Among St. Lucia adults only resorts, it’s a standout for those seeking balance, freedom, and a luxurious space to simply be.

StolenTime Feedback & Assessment – Solo Travelers Concerns

I came alone and left more whole than I’ve felt in years. The silence, the sea, the spa—StolenTime gave me permission to not be everything for everyone. Just for a week, I got to be everything for myself.” — Claire, UK

“At first, I felt guilty for booking a trip just for me. But on my second morning, sipping coffee on the balcony with no emails to answer and nowhere to be—I realized this was exactly what I needed.” — Jordan, NYC

These testimonials are reminders that solo travel isn’t isolating—it’s liberating.

Still Hesitant? Here’s How to Ease into Your Selfish Summer

If a fully planned solo trip seems too overwhelming, try starting with small goals such as:

• ● Taking a long weekend trip
• ● Doing a short solo staycation
• ● Having a solo activity during a group trip

Another option is some retreats like StolenTime that offer wellness vacations. These retreats focus on self-care while allowing the freedom you can skip structured programming if you want.

Keep in mind that there isn’t a grading system for your vacation. So it doesn’t matter how you choose to spend your time. All that matters is that you feel better after engaging with whatever activities you’re doing.

Final Thoughts: Self-Care Isn’t Selfish—It’s Sustainable

Give yourself permission to be “selfish” this summer, not in an ego-driven way but in honoring one’s soul by saying, “I also matter.”

This type of joy elevates every aspect of life—from family interactions and workplace presence to friendships—creating positive change everywhere. Investing in your own joy transforms you into a vibrant beacon radiating positivity towards those around you like friends, family work and beyond.

So go ahead. Book the flight and get the massage or order room service set for one. Make it a StolenTime Summer because it’s high time you indulge in some ‘you’ time.

Reserve Your Solo Getaway Now

Want to make the most of your time? Check out packages and solo travel ideas at StolenTime.

Take this as your Selfish Summer—and always remember that it is perfectly okay to care about yourself.